Marriage is something that should not be entered into lightly. A solid marriage will often be tested, and will go through growth spurts, challenges, and is never easy. If a marriage was easy I don’t’ think that more than 50% of marriages would end in divorce, right?
• So, are you or someone you are close to ready to take the plunge into a lifelong commitment of marriage?
• Are they planning a wedding?
A marriage is difficult, rewarding, amazing, and time consuming! What’s crazy is that about 67% of couples entering into a marriage or legal commitment also plan to have a wedding that will cost anywhere from $5,000 to well over $65,000! That alone can cause a divorce within the first year! All kidding aside, the truth is a wedding can cause much stress and in all seriousness challenges a couple to make crucial decisions that are both emotional and logical when planning a wedding.
Here are the top 5 stress factors and solutions when planning a wedding.
Set a Wedding Budget
A wedding budget is crucial. Before you just pick a magical number, sit down with your fiancé and go over your finances, what others (parents, step-parents, etc.) are contributing, and how much debt you want to go into from your wedding.
Before you pick your budget, I suggest you do research on the kind of wedding vendors you want to hire and how much their services cost in your area. This will empower you to have the wedding you desire knowing what the professional wedding vendors in your area charge so you are not surprised when you realize that you might not have budgeted enough.
Not budgeting enough is the most common problem. Couples often want a $50,000 wedding on a $10,000 budget. Unfortunately, the world does not work this way, and you will find yourself disappointed and stressed out if you don’t budget correctly for your wedding day.
How to Incorporate the Family into the Wedding Planning
Family can be stressful. You might have numerous members of your family involved in the planning aspect of your wedding. Many different opinions can cause a very stressful environment, so make sure you carefully pick what (if any) family members help in the planning process and/or financially. When family members contribute financially to a wedding they often want to help in the planning process. You might want this, or you may consider this to be a nightmare. Make sure that you and your fiancé really think this one out long and hard before asking family members to get involved in the wedding planning process.
Not Enough Time in the Day to Plan a Wedding
Do you already feel like there is not enough time in the day? Well, planning a wedding will more than likely feel like a part-time job, if not more! Make sure that you actually have the time to plan a wedding, if not I HIGHLY suggest that you consider hiring a reputable and professional wedding planner.
Too many couples think that a wedding planner is an unnecessary cost. Great wedding planners will pay for themselves, literally. What I mean is that you can actually save money on other services and items by hiring a wedding planner! Seriously, I am not lying. If you and your fiancé work full-time, I would suggest calling and meeting with 3 wedding planners and see if one is a match for you! If you don’t feel that you need a wedding planner to help with the planning, I do suggest hiring a day-of-wedding coordinator. A day of wedding coordinator will be the best investment ever.
Don’t Forget Date Night When Planning a Wedding
Like I said above, planning a wedding is like having a high-stressed part-time job. It’s easy to spend the time off you have planning your wedding and let it take over your life. Don’t neglect your marriage before it even starts! Make sure to delegate at least 1 day a week to spend with your fiancé and make sure the “wedding planning” topic is off limits! You will be very happy you did this.
The Wedding Guest List
You want to invite 100 guests and keep your wedding intimate with close friends and family. Your fiancé wants to invite 250 guests because he/she has almost 75 cousins and has a very large extended family.
You have done your research and you know that the average cost for a wedding is around $180 per person. So if you invite 250 guests you are looking at spending about $45,000. Your budget is between $15,000 and $20,000. The math speaks for itself, and you’ve already done your research on the professional wedding vendors you want to hire and you know that it will be near impossible to have 250 people and hire the wedding professionals that you have researched and like.
I have seen many couples and families fight about the guest count. When making this decision, do NOT try to cut corners, as you will more than likely be disappointed with parts of your wedding. Be reasonable, realistic, and remember the word compromise with your fiancé about the guest list. Make sure that you listen and take into consideration family tradition, how many friends are in town versus out of town, how long it’s been since you’ve seen people on your guest list, etc.
Please make sure to suggest this blog post and this website as a resource to help anyone plan their wedding, whether they live in the Pacific NW or not, this website has not only amazing wedding professionals but also tips, tricks, and videos to view that will help plan the perfect wedding.